As we close out July and this healing arts series, this blog we will be discussing writing. Yes! Writing can be therapeutic. I would know being an author/blogger and all. Sometimes we don't have the words, confidence or precise thought pattern when speaking versus writing. I know most people hate to write and honestly I think that disdain comes from a combination of unenthusiastic topic(s) and overthinking about the writing process. For me I write about sexual abuse, mental health and healing. Go through this website and the majority of my blog posts reflects those three subjects. At first I had tunnel vision. I spoke about me surviving child sexual abuse in MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD (my testimony of overcoming child sexual abuse). I spoke about molestation and the aftermath as well. But then I did further research and found out 60% of Black women will experience sexual abuse by the age of 18. I also discovered every 2 minutes a person is sexually assaulted in the U.S. I was shocked 1 in 6 women will experience a full or incomplete rape. The more I learned the more intel I could utilize when writing blog posts. The topic of sexual abuse evolved to where it wasn't as narrow as my story or just don't rape. It became multifaceted. It became complicated. It became deeper and bigger than me or statistics.
I, We, She, He . . . US
It clearly appeared as a global epidemic from Pakistan's Hidden Shame to Misogynoir & Rape Culture of Black Women to Ding Dong The Pedophile Eddie Long Is Dead and a host of blogs written about the sexual abuse but with different storylines, different sexes, different cultural norms, different races, different sexual orientations etc. Writing, made it all too clear that the trivial boundaries that separate us slowly faded into a common thread that binds us was together as sexual abuse survivors. So I kept writing. I write for the boys who project hypermasculinity to hide their past of being taken advantage of. I write for the "fast tail" girls who can't get enough because the first time they were touched it wasn't consensual. I write for the children who have 'survival sex' (when a person usually a child is at the bottom of the social ladder sells their body aka sex/ experiences rape to survive) being poverty stricken AND hungry is hard. I write for the women who are "bitter" because their first introduction to sex was gang rape. I write for the men who were told their molestation from the woman babysitter was a rites of passage. I do this because once I was able to break the walls of guilt, shame and fear nothing could stop me or shake me. Once I was able to speak my truth unapologetically I spoke about sexual violence candidly because the taboo didn't apply to me. The cower behind religious notions of forgive or turning a blind eye because it happened so long ago meant absolutely nothing to me.
What I noticed years ago with this journey of speaking my truth about child sexual abuse is that what I do is a domino effect. Meaning once I speak about it others feel comfortable to speak as well. Perhaps not as freely as stating names, places, times and dates but they are at least able to say, "yeah me too" even if it's above a whisper or they are vulnerable enough to say I know a person who has gone through "it" too. What I find interesting is that writing is therapeutic for me. It allows me to tap into my creative space as well as it gives me permission to be completely unapologetically uninhabited about what I know or feel. There's no political correctness in saying we live in a rape culture or men are predatory. It doesn't matter how you, the reader may think or feel about these statements because I have articles and testimonies of survivors of rape and actions of predators who are often men to back up what I said. The point isn't to point fingers or to make one sex look bad, though I've been accused of being a feminist that hates men. In all contrary I dislike men as a whole but love men individually (perhaps one day I'll explore this topic in a blog post elaborating the contrasts as it relates to predatory male behaviors and rape culture).
Rise To The Occasion
To heal a nation will take a collective effort. So I do my part in bringing an end to rape by blogging about it through VIEISME byway of weekly blogs. Each new subscriber of VIEISME will get the FREE ebook titled 10 Tips To Detect A Pedophile! I also wrote my truth in MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD that's available on Amazon Kindle now. All my social media platforms are dedicated to news stories or discussions on sexual abuse.
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And lastly, annually I host an event called Paint Your Truth for survivors of sexual assault in the Boston area. It's an event where survivors get to paint their truth regarding their sexual assault. There's no prying into one's life or an explanation. All supplies are provided free and survivors get to take their creations home with them. This year I will be hosting Paint Your Truth again so stay tuned for details and how you can contribute.
Pay It FORWARD
I'm just one person doing my part to heal through my artistic gift of writing. If writing is too your passion go for it. Start with a word and see how far writing will take you. MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD was supposed to be 300 pages tops and it's over 500 pages smoothly. If you would have asked me five years ago what I wanted to do career wise speaking against rape would be the absolute last choice if it even came up. But I do believe in having purpose and that things happen for a reason. Looking back at my life I do believe what I do now is what I was meant to do. It just took the right time, situation and mindset to reveal that journey for me. To end this blog for the reader reading this FIND YOUR PURPOSE. GET HEALED. BE THE GREATEST VERSION OF YOURSELF BY MASTERING YOURSELF. And as always . . .
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Have you checked out the book trailer for MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD coming this summer in hard copy? Today we're at part 35. I discuss my cousin's marriage and how awkward the day was including his wife getting cold feet. Click HERE to watch.
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I'll leave you with a personal quote of mine, "It's imperative that these acts of wrongdoings do not continue unchecked for it is our children who pay the highest cost." - Vie Ciné
As Iyanla Vanzant says, "I am not my sister's keep, I am my sister."
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