Misogynoir is today's blog topic. Before we dive into the post, let's get a correct definition of what exactly is misogynoir. Misogynoir is defined as: “misogyny directed towards black women where race and gender both play roles in bias. It was coined by queer Black feminist Moya Bailey, who created the term to address misogyny directed towards black women in America visual and popular culture.” - mic
Now you might be asking yourself how does misogynoir connect to sexual trauma or mental health? Well I'll answer that. In Black homes, we have rampant problem regarding rape, molestation and sexual assaults. As we discussed in the last blog post, the Black Women's Blueprint was quoted saying 60% of Black women will experience rape. Since it is within our culture to keep issues within the family and to save face most victims won't receive counseling by the family so the victim can heal. This lack of care will re-victimize the victim and thus keep the pattern of sexual trauma continuing throughout the generations causing generational curses.
Rape is a complex subject because it has many facets. Not only consensual sex but also opportunity and power. These are the three major points that give predators leeway to rape. If the victim cannot consent to rape because of intoxication or whatever else and a person continues to have sex with her, that's rape. Regardless if she's a girlfriend or someone you've known for years. Each time you have sex, you need consent. An example of opportunity for a predator to prey is a child in the care of a lazy adult versus a child who is in the care of attentive parents. And of course, the last point is power. A rapist being able to force a person to do something they don't want to do or a rapist being able to take someone's right away to give consent. An example of power is tying a victim down or locking a victim in a room with a predator.
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Rapist are able to violate because they don't see the person they are harming as a full person with feels and rights. The person to them is a thing, an object, or simply property. Misogynoir types aren't far behind. If you can see a Black woman and only see curvy body, call her bitch or when rejected you call her a thot or anything disrespectful and demeaning because she is Black and woman, you aren't too far from seeing her as an object thus making it easy to rape her if you choose to. Am I saying ALL misogynoirs are rapists? No. But do misogynoirs rape? Ask R. Kelly. It's been said that a society cannot rise higher than its women (add quote), but what does that mean when Black society uses words like chicken head, thot, hoe, whore, cumbucket, skizzer, smut, slut, slore, bitch, baby mama etc when speaking of a Black woman or Black women in general? We all have that gif permanently burned into our heads of Nelly sliding a credit card between the buttocks of a video vixen. What does it say about Black men when they use these terms on women who look like their mothers?
A lot of Black culture turns Black women into Saartjie Baartman through popular culture like music, television, magazine, movies, music videos etc. Black men have single-handedly told the world how worthless and sexually objectifying Black women as a whole are. Meanwhile Black men have turned into Circus Management Personnel who profits off of us being seen in a dim light. As with Saartjie Baartman, Black women are finding themselves used and abused until maximum profit is made from their humiliation. Once no longer viable, we are discarded and when the depression reaches an all time high, we commit suicide to find peace from misogynoir.
If you Missed Last Week's Blog: 60% Of Black Women Will Experience Rape By Age 18 click to read: HERE
I'll leave you with a personal quote of mine, "It's imperative that these acts of wrongdoings do not continue unchecked for it is our children who pay the highest cost." - Vie Ciné
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