By now we have all learned that Eddie Bishop Long, a well known Mega Church Bishop from Georgia is dead. He died of cancer and people are split about how they should process his death. Unlike most people, Eddie Long was full of controversy from his anti-gay rhetoric, to his new wave of Christianity preaching and lastly, his pedophilia. Eddie Long was accused by several young men in 2010 of sexual misconduct during the earlier part of the 2000's. Eddie Long would take these boys on lavish trips on his private plane, stay at luxury hotels, give them expensive jewelry all to use his position as a spiritual leader to force these boys into oral sex and anal sex.
When this news came out in 2010 his folk of over 25,000 members and many other Christians, primarily Black Christians came to defend Eddie Long. Their belief was him being a "man of GOD" was being unjustifiably prosecuted and some even correlated Eddie Long's sexual abuse investigation to Jesus's persecution. As with any scandal, the new media moved on and so did a few hush money checks that were made out to Eddie Bishop Long's victims who at the time of their confession were in the early 20's.
Now, with Eddie Long dead, the same feelings of disdain and loyalty have reveal itself again for many Black people. To many Christianize Blacks they are quick to forgive Eddie using the scripture as an example. I, like many people have NOT been so merciful. Why? Not only as a survivor myself of more than one sexual assaults in my childhood, which took me 14 year to speak my truth, and in 2016 I released my confession as a sexual abuse survivor titled MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD that will be available in hard copy this summer, but also, his sins not only damaged the reputation of the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church (which hosted Coretta Scott King's funeral) but the many boys who trusted him.
As a Black woman, I can say this with firm conviction, Black people as a whole are very fickle and detest their children. We view their children as burdens and walking consequential receipts for our birth control slip up. Was that harsh? How can we as Black people be so quick to forgive Eddie Long but hold grudges against our cousin who we know since birth that owes of $10 from 5 years ago? We are quick to cut off someone who slight us in the least bit but with people who we don't personally know and have smallest strand of power, we are quick, fast and a hurry to defend them . . . even when it comes down to the un-defendable, Child Sexual Assault.
It is not a surprise that these Bible Thumpers could quote forgiveness passages but could not quote certain Bible stories as Sodom and Gomorrah where the Christian GOD did NOT forgive those living in sin. The plague that ravished Egypt didn't spare too many people. Noah's Arc anyone? Nahum 1:2 states, "God is jealous, and the LORD revengeth; the LORD revengeth, and is furious; the LORD will take vengeance on his adversaries, and he reserveth wrath for his enemies." So how is it that GOD has the discernment when to wreck havoc and seek revenge on those who corrupt his beliefs but we as his followers choose to forgive those who corrupt our children?
Again, we hate our children. With sexual abuse at a rate 60% for Black women by the age of 18 and the overall American population doesn't have a better statistical outcome. 1 out of 6 girls will experience a complete or incomplete rate. How can we say we love our children when movies like Eve's Bayou, Precious and Mississippi Damned showcases what happens in NUMEROUS homes, again I ask HOW CAN WE SAY WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN? When we can sit here and make excuses for pedophiles in holy clothing to cover their sinister intentions and shun our children or deem them 'fast,' 'faggot,' 'wanting it,' 'Jezebel,' 'whore,' 'hot in the pant' etc as if children are not innocent and do not ask to be raped.
We have generational curses within our Black families. Yes, I said it! Cat's out the bag. One of those generational curses for many of us is sexual abuse whether in families like Oprah's story, family acquaintance like Maya Angelou's story, babysitter's like my story or yes, the church like we know with Eddie Long's victims. In one of my past blogs titled: Who Molested The Molester I blogged about how situations like Eddie Long's sexual violence is a prime example of how wrongdoings left unchecked will recycle itself like a cancer and damage other life source, "It is estimated molesters will have about 400 victims in his lifetime" Chaucies Place. Also "over 75% of serial rapists report they were sexually abused as youngsters" Chaucies Place. It is time we as Black people honor our children because they are a reflection of us and the messages we installed in them. As the Bible says in Ephesians 6:2 "Honour thy father and mother" but it also says, in Mark 9:42 "And whosoever shall offend one of [these] little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea."
I'll leave you with a personal quote of mine, "It's imperative that these acts of wrongdoings do not continue unchecked for it is our children who pay the highest cost." - Vie Ciné
As Iyanla Vanzant says, "I am not my sister's keep, I am my sister."
Want to see HERE and HERE the hate I got for holding Eddie accountable, one woman said and I quote. "I curse your womb with miscarriages." Also check out the excellent Response Comedian Lil Duval had to say HERE.
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