What does loyalty mean to you? Dictionary.com gives three definitions for the word.
1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.
2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc.
3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like:
a man with fierce loyalties.
To most people loyalty is associated with opportunity and if the terms of the current situation are satisfactory. What do I mean? For example, if you're in a happy, fulfilling, loving relationship 9 out of 10 times both parties will be loyal to one another because of their needs being met, HOWEVER, if the couple is going through uphill battles, financial issues, mental health, etc. one will consider bailing out. Though people say and regurgitate cliché phrases about relationships going through periods of good and bad, many people can't ride out the bad. Our loyalty most likely than not has terms and agreements and if not met then our service (loyalty) will be terminated. If this is how we operate, can we call our commitment loyalty or just opportunity? You see this scenario play out when people break up all the time. Not 24 hours ago the now ex was his or her love of their life. Soon as they break up, she's a bitch, and his penis is small. Whether the slanderous accusations are true or false, the real issue is why bring it up now? Because the relationship is over thus the loyalty?
True loyalty is unconditional. You're dedicated regardless if you're receiving immediate gratification. All the love, success and advances you made as a couple can't possibly go out the window just because the relationship fizzled out. The personal building blocks to the stability of your relationship couldn't amount to nothing because you two didn't make it to the horse and carriage stage. If that's the belief then your loyalty is based on 'what do I get out of it' rather than selflessness for the person you're supposedly invested in. Many people can't think outside of themselves, and that's why the relationship ultimately failed. The more two people can be selfless to each other the better the relationship will be. I'm not talking about being a doormat; I'm talking about being considerate. Fully understand who the person you're dating is and the needs they want met increases your chances of lasting; even better if you actually DO achieve their needs. But because many people have a self-serving nature, it's all about me. If something doesn't benefit me then there's no need to pursue or keep interest. It's easy to demand an action; it's harder to oblige by one, especially if you don't prosper from it. Loyalty is more than a word; it a consistent action.
Be Entertained. Be Enlightened. Be Loved.✌