This has been a topic on my mind for awhile now. If you've been following me you know I'm in the process of self-publishing my first book titled MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD. The content of MEMOIRS OF A FORGOTTEN CHILD is abuse, specifically child abuse. The reason why I felt the need to write about this taboo subject is because I met many survivors who felt ashamed, guilty, and fearful for being a victim. It hit home for me when during a conversation about my upbringing someone in my family revealed to me in confidentiality that she was sexually abused. The way I spoke about being a survivor gave her courage to want to tell her truth but through me. Meaning, she wanted me to share my story. I'm a very private person so at first I declined at first. I pondered on it until the no manifested into a yes. I bounced the idea around a couple of people I knew, and they supported my decision.
One of the conversations I had with this family member, she revealed to me that the abuse she suffered was intergenerational, generational curses, essentially. She revealed to me that she has been abused and so have the majority of her siblings, and now her siblings may be engaging in some form of molestation. From another family member, he revealed to me her mother's sister's significant other used to abuse her sexually. This revelation forced me to confront the experiences I had with many people, particularly young girls and sexual assault. I also thought about the question, Who molested the molester? It's easy for us to say the molester needs to be banished from the community and in some cases murdered. While I'm not for the killing of people, however, I am for punishment and molesting a person is not something you can atone like stealing a product and replacing the goods.
In many families I have come to realize the story my family members shared isn't new. Molestation runs deep; incest runs deep, rape runs deep, and yet no one speaks about this. In the media, I see weekly someone getting caught sexually abusing a child or the topic of molestation is being discussed but it's only for a segment and then something else replaces the focus. Remember the Catholic Priests scandal? Remember the Michael Jackson accusations (even though many recanted their statements after his death)? Remember the Jerry Sandusky Penn State scandal? They existed within sensationalism and died off as if they were isolated incidents that rarely happen but stats show that's not the case. Over 50% of Black women by the age of 18 will be sexually assaulted. Black boys have a higher chance of being sexually abused than left handed so why aren't we talking about this? Why aren't we digging in the mud to clear up this sin? We can turn a blind eye but like I've seen on many accounts if we don't deal with this subject it will become all too common like a ritual. Bar Mitzvah for Jewish boys. Quinceanera for Mexican girls. Rape and molestation for Black boys and girls? We need to confront this serious epidemic within Black society but we first need to ask, who molested the molester?
Be Entertained. Be Enlightened. Be Loved. ✌